John-Michael shares that he struggled to find effective therapy for his trauma but eventually discovered the Self-Talk Institute and Dr. Shad Helmstetter, who has been studying neuroplasticity for 40 years. He learned that everyone is groomed by their environment and experiences, and as a survivor of child sexual abuse, he found himself trying to understand why it happened to him and developed negative self-talk as a result. The Self-Talk Institute helped him recognize and change these harmful thoughts by teaching him to reframe them in a positive way. John-Michael emphasizes that changing the way we talk to ourselves can change the path of our lives and lead to success, but it requires a conscious effort to make that change.
Since traditional therapy did not work for me I I needed to find something that would work something that I felt that I connected to and the thing that I found that I really really found that I felt grounded and was able to move through many things was when I was introduced to the self-talk Institute now Dr Shad helmstetter is the founder of The self-talk Institute and he has been working in this area for the past 40 years and he discovered that the neuroplasticity of the brain continues to grow as we grow a lot of people used to believe that the brain stopped at a certain age and it didn't develop anymore but we've learned that the synapses and the neurons continue to grow and are constantly being fed new Pathways from the information that we're given and one of the things that I learned that really helped me was that uh in their instruction they told me that we're all groomed everyone is groomed from birth from our parents our teachers our coaches and everything around us our society the environmental background that we have are our race the way that we're taught from everyone around us forms our thoughts and our beliefs and as survivors we go through a really uh major transition after the abuse we are I should say at least I do I did I started to try to find reasons of why it happened so I could uh figure out and understand that why I was chosen so that I could live as normal as I could in society and so I decided that the only way that I could comprehend and understand why these people did this to me was because of these reasons such as this is all I'm worth um maybe I caused it this is this is what I deserve so I started saying those things to myself over and over and over so that those lies became my truth and basically what the self-help Institute does the self-talk Institute does is take those thoughts have you recognized them and then change the way you say them because our Birthright is that we're all worth everything that we're given and we are supposed to be successful we were never just supposed to be failures it's our own talk and what we hear around us and how we adapt adopt interpret the things that are being said to fill in our minds so once you can start to change the way you see things and what you say to yourself you can change the path of your life and you can change it to be more successful you could be everything that you've ever wanted to be but you have to make the choice to change