In this video, Jess shares how rape culture shows up in our lives and how survivors can heal in the face of it.
"The Harm of Rape Culture. There are so many ways in which victim-blaming culture is built into our socialization, sometimes even our “humor.” We hear soap jokes when it comes to men and sexual assault in prison, dehumanizing people, pretty much calling them inmates as if rape was a part of the sentencing or even the punishment that people deserve. We hear prevention programming that tells people, predominantly femmes, not to walk alone, or to wear certain clothing instead of messaging that blatantly states “don’t rape,” which holds accountability measures for people who are raping. But by not thinking about these things critically, we’re perpetuating these cycles. And many people project their beliefs about sexuality or what women or other people should do. But whether people believe you about your trauma is heavily influenced by their need to believe that the world is in a place where bad things happen, without rhyme or reason, or sometimes because someone was allowed to harm people with impunity, and because others have allowed it to thrive in secrecy. So, acknowledging your truth may mess with people’s illusions, and people will go to the mat for their illusions. But it doesn’t and will never deny or excuse your reality, or make it your fault. So, sometimes we just have to not listen to the stupidity of others who say things that make them feel right or safe."