You know many times when we think about taking a risk um it can feel really scary we can start to feel maybe you know that knot in our stomach um and that kind of maybe some fear rising up because that's a big deal for those of us that have experienced childhood sexual abuse to really step out and take a risk um but what I'm learning about that is there's no right way to take a risk there's no right way there's no formula to it that sometimes we can we can we can Rush In And we can just jump off the deep end and then sometimes it's okay to give ourselves permission to just take that one brick out at a time to be able to just maybe maybe not divulge all of the information that you want that person to know but start out by just giving them a little snippet and see what they do with that see how they receive that from you and then you can make your decision if you want to go deeper with that person and take a bigger risk based on their response um I think it's just that that that one thing at a time and understanding like there's no right way to do this life that we're in that it's all about um taking a risk also gives us the opportunity to really to really um end up having things that we never dreamed possible in our life and also there might be those times that we take risks that leave us devastated or leave us disappointed um and learning ways to cope with that because that's life we can't control those outcomes and it's in I think it's just really about giving ourselves permission to do it and learning from it today.