Before reading or contributing to a SurvivorForum, please read and understand our Guiding Principles.
SurvivorForum is a space for individuals over the age of 18 who have been affected by childhood sexual abuse (CSA). Our discussion forum is for adult survivors looking to share their experiences and to offer support to one another. The forum is not for seeking advice for a third party.
SurvivorsForum is not a direct help service. If you need immediate help and support, please visit www.rainn.org. In an emergency, always call 911.
This is a limited open-dialogue discussion forum. Users can post in real time between 10:00am-3:00pm Eastern Time. Messages received after this time will be approved the following day.
Remember that anyone can read your posts, so please check that you do not include any identifying information such as your full name, your children’s names, the place where you may work or your location.
Do not share your contact details (for example, your email address) in a post.
Do not share identifying information about your abuser(s) (for example, their name or contact information) if they have not been found guilty in a court of law or liable in a civil proceeding.
Write Clearly When Composing a Message – Review your message carefully before clicking the ‘Send’ button. Remember, if your message can be misunderstood, it likely will be.
State what You Want from Others in Their Responses – If you want others to respond to your message in a certain way, include this in your message. For example, if you are looking for advice or feedback, ask for it. If you simply want to share what you’re feeling, you might say, “I’m not looking for advice, I just wanted to share how I’m feeling.”
Do Not Use ALL CAPS – Typing in all capital letters is frowned upon; it’s the equivalent of shouting. It also makes your message more difficult to read.
Do Not Post Off-Topic Messages – The purpose of this forum is for survivors and those seeking resources on CSA topics to support each other through discussion. Any threads that are deemed irrelevant will be removed.
Please do not post materials or topics which are insulting, offensive, abusive, vulgar, hateful, harassing, obscene, profane, lewd, or physically threatening. We ask that everyone who posts makes the effort to respect all other views and does not attempt to force any personal, political, or religious views onto others. We expect those who post to accept others’ comments in the way that they are meant, as in support and information sharing.
Treat Other Users as You Would Like to be Treated
Remember that each survivor is in their own unique place on their healing journey. The kind of response you may want or need from others might not be the same as the kind of response another survivor wants or needs.
Spamming and Advertising is Strictly Prohibited
Any and all advertising, chain letters, pyramid schemes, solicitations, spamming, or trolling is inappropriate and unacceptable.
Do Not Post Links to Blogs
While we make every effort to ensure the safety of all forum members, we cannot extend that to other parts of the web, and cannot allow the promotion of anything that could identify you or others.
Respect Other Users’ Right to Privacy
Do not post messages that may reveal the identity or contact information of another user.
Do Not Provoke Other Users
Do not post messages that are inflammatory or solely serve to incite or isolate other members.
Do Not Invalidate Other Users’ Experiences
Many users are survivors and their experiences are real and valid, even if they are different from yours.
Respect the Experiences of Users from Different Cultural Backgrounds
The experience of abuse, the response to it, and the healing journey for each survivor are shaped by their cultural identity and community norms. Recognize that every users’ experiences are unique and valid, even if you do not understand their perspectives.
This website/mobile application was produced by Zero Abuse Project under grant number 15POVC-21-GK-01095-NONF, awarded by the Office for Victims of Crime, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Department of Justice. The opinions, findings, and conclusions or recommendations expressed in this website/mobile application are those of the contributors and do not necessarily represent the official position or policies of the U.S. Department of Justice.